I've really enjoyed reading this thread. It's just what I need.
Thank you for that, Stephanie! I struggle a LOT with wanting a model's body, which is ridiculous since I'm fifty years old and really never exercised before I was forty. Doesn't stop me from wanting it, though! I have lots of regrets over not getting in shape sooner and it's hard for me to accept that my stomach may never be flat again. When it WAS flat, I was soft and flabby everywhere else. Not fat, just out of shape--I so wish I had found T-Tapp sooner! BUT the point is that I am doing a lot of damage by trying to hide the bulgy belly--pulling my arms forward, which pronates my shoulders and consequently messes up my back. I must learn to accept the tummy so that I can get rid of the shoulder/back pain. And deep down I know that it's the only way to help those tummy muscles, too.
My favorite take-away: “What’s important here is to set your sites on a goal that will put your own body into proportion rather than worrying about getting your waist size down to that of a model or a friend you might admire (okay, envy may be a better word) but whose body type may be completely different from yours.” This one sentence really spoke to me as a reminder to be my personal best and to not let my goals be distorted by things outside my control.
And this, Kara, is another inspiration.
Come to find out, there were muscles deep in my lower abs that I hadn't even been able to feel that I wasn't activating. If I activate correctly, I don't have pain. If I do, I'm pain free. It took me a long time to get that mind-muscle connection. Now, I was losing inches the whole time, just not as quickly as I would have if I had been activating better.
I have recently found some ab muscles that I haven't felt in many years, which was really pretty disconcerting, since I've been T-Tapping for 5-6 years. Somehow when I "tucked," I was only managing to pull in the lower ab muscles. The ones around the belly button just didn't do much. So I had gotten to a point where I looked good everywhere except above the bikini line (not that I wear one, LOL!) where there was a huge pregnant-looking bulge. I hadn't actually had a waistline in the front since my second pregnancy 22 years ago, but now it was just getting...Big! It was really stressing me out. My daughter found, on another site, instructions for getting in touch with your transverse abs that said to get on your hands and knees, let your belly sink toward the floor, and THEN tighten tummy muscles. It was incredible to me. I could feel that area tighten up like it had not done in Forever! So I am really relating to your story of finding new muscles, though my blind spot was in a different spot than yours. I'm gradually learning to feel those muscles, though it's still very hard, and I have to occasionally drop down on all fours in order to 'find' them again!
I should pull my F&F book off the shelf and read again--y'all are giving me good food for thought! Thanks~
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