OK, I have to vent

[ilwzw2]

My ds's girlfriend came by today. She is tall, close to 6" and is overweight. I'm a poor judge of weight so I am going to guess 40 pounds. Or a couple of sizes. She has a personality that we are trying to get used to.

Anyway she had her first appointment with a personal trainer this morning and is very excited to begin this journey. She has very good intentions and I admire that she is doing something to better herself.
She commented that she told the PT about what I have been cooking this past week. (She has been working on a project at our house and has been coming over after work, around dinner time. So she has eaten with us most of the week, which is fine, I like to cook and spur of the moment guests do not bother me. The more, the merrier.)

So she informed me that the personal trainer suggested that I cook healthier food for her. Hmm, I was quite offended. "This is my house, you are my guest and don't tell me to cook healthier food for you." I don't mind cooking healthy food and I know we all have our beliefs as far as what's healthy but I really felt she went over the line with suggesting I cook more specifically for her needs. Did I mention that I am eating and cooking GM/MM?

Don't mess with the GM/MM plan!!!!
Don't even mess with something you know nothing about!!

Anyway I started wondering if her comment was more a subtle way of telling me I don't cook/prepare meals in a healthy way. Maybe she used the 'cooking for her" as a way to tell me other things?

So my ds's friend had her packet of food suggestions and grocery list. There were some very good (GM) food on the list but then others were not. Why eat processed egg whites when you can eat the whole egg and benefit from it?
The list was very brand specific and heavy on the processed stuff.

Do you know how badly I wanted to throw out better suggestions for her? My tongue is so sore from biting it.

Then she said the PT said her body type is one that can 'pick up' muscle quickly but also can pick up weight quickly so she has to cut back on protein. Huh? Don't know what she eats instead of the protein she's missing out on.

OK, it's time to stop griping. Hopefully she will see the weight loss, keep it off and we'll all live happily ever after. I really do wish her well on her journey. Maybe I am just a bit too sensitive when I feel like something that I truly believe in is being attacked. I want to support her in her healthy choices but I guess I just feel like someone who doesn't understand what I believe in has no business suggesting that I change.

BTW some dinners this week were...1. Salmon, broccoli and something else GM. Can't remember what. 2. Eggplant Parmesan---local eggplant, fresh mozz and parm cheese and freshly made marinara sauce.. GM. I forgot what else I cooked, but you may get the idea what kind of meals were prepared.

Thank you kind people for bearing through this and reading it. I don't know if getting this out really makes me feel any better. Maybe I'm too sensitive. Maybe I need to focus my anger at my WO and use that energy to focus on and improve my form!

Many thanks
Sharon

[ilwzw2]

I have to add...I do not mind preparing foods around people's allergies, food choices, etc. I guess it was the bluntness that she used to tell me this.

Sharon

[BlessedMama]

AY YI YI YIIIIII!

I'm with YOU Sharon! Honestly! Tell her that the GM/MM is the best way for YOU to eat, and she is welcome to bring other things to supplement or substitute for herself, but you can't be a short order cook.

And YIKES on the protein! Good way to end up hanging onto the fat AND sending yourself into an adrenal crash!

I LOVE IT that T-Tapp works for ALL body types and all blood types and all metabolic types!

Please don't hurt your tongue from biting it!!!! I'm afraid mine would have been bitten off by now!

HUGS!

[Miss Understood]

Most people have a poor idea of what is healthy. Low fat foods have been given positive press for years and low fat foods are typically adulterated concoctions that aren't healthy at all. Industrial seed oils made with pressure and high heat that creates free radicals took the place of good old lard, butter and coconut oils The food pyramid recommends close to a dozen servings of grain products a day. Grain, especially wheat, causes inflammation and digestive problems for most people. We're encouraged to drink fruit juice that is a sugar overdose. Conventional wisdom of what is healthy has been screwed up for decades, particularly since the sixties. Yes, I would have been offended by the comments, too, but the girl is not totally to blame for being misinformed. I would have probably asked her which items on your menu she believed were not healthy and which foods she thought would be preferable. Then I would have reeducated her until her eyes glazed over and she was sorry she ever brought the subject up. Lol! She's lucky she has you to deal with rather than me!

[dg5boys]

Tell her unless the PT is a registered dietitian, he/she is out of their scope of practice. What's even more serious is that the PT can be actually held liable. PT's can not prescribe anything, so a food list is a big no-no.

Some people just have to figure out for themselves what works. Apparently the certified PT carries 'some weight' with your ds's friend...BTY is the PT certified?

My nephew's girlfriend was a serious vegan, yet she ate tomato paste directly from the can with her soy 'hotdog'. Go figure?

If she is willing to hang-out at your table, you have a sphere of influence she must appreciate and take seriously. Keep it logical and she'll come around.

[MissChriss]

Hmmmmm, coming over for a lovely free meal and making unsolicited suggestions on the menue and food choices in general? Maybe the invitation should not be standing until the attitude is more thankful You sound like such a patient gal Sharon, keep doing what you are doing.

[mamalove]

Whoa! Decrease her protein?!?! I don't know how she'll stay full and energized. I've just begun increasing my protein and am feeling SO much better! And, I know I'm not suppose to be getting on the scales but....I've lost 7 lbs and I truly believe it's because I've upped my protein! Her PT is a wacko with that advice! LOL!

[pamelaw]

Sanjay Gupta said the same carp on Anderson this week (it was a rerun). People really have NO clue what sound science of the body is and what nutrition truly is, or even the difference between factory farmed 'foods' and REAL foods.

Sharon, I'd never have stayed silent and my oldest son knows this well, so when he brings anyone over, he knows ahead of time that I'll speak up and give references even for the guest to educate themselves and if they can't eat what I've made (with the exception of allergies) then that's too bad. I say it nicely and I don't get mad, but nonetheless, I do say it. I admire your restraint, but it IS your home and no one should be expected to be a short order cook.

If they are invited over I find out ahead of time if they have limitations of any kind and I respect that as a good host or in deciding if I can have them over successfully.

[pamelaw]

I also really get disgusted when emotions and sentimentality provoke dangerous eating programs that make claims that are absolutely untrue. I nearly died eating a high grain and no meat diet and I do understand the sentimentality involved in not wanting to take a life of an animal to eat. I love steak, etc., and yet think cows are adorable. It's something I have to deal with all the time. Yet, my life and the lives of my family matter more to me and so we follow the Mosaic guidelines of cruelty free methods of eating meat.

I don't tell others what to do and have learned to share only with a few what I do because there is always someone with their own baggage (jealous of my weight/figure after having a baby so they make petty or untrue remarks designed to make me feel bad, or their own agendas, or their own guilts, etc and it IS a highly charged topic for many.) who tries to attack what I do and/or me or someone who twists what they heard in the retelling, which happens even with the best of motives. I know anyone who follows Weston Price has probably experienced this themselves. And anyone remember the game 'telephone'?

Since having root in what we do regardless of the topic is so important to me, I give people references they can look into on their own time if they really care and leave it at that.

[BlueLineBabe]

Sharon, I laughed right out loud when you wrote that the gf has a personality you're all trying to get used to. They're everywhere!!!!

I don't blame you for being irked. You are under no obligation to feed this kid. My mother always pounded into my head that when you go to someone's house for a meal, you eat what you're given, say no thank you - POLITELY - if it's something you cannot abide, and say thank you several times once the meal is over. And ask if you can help the cook do dishes.

That personal trainer is nuts if he thinks that protein is the enemy. It's the only thing that'll keep her from chewing someone's leg off with a crazy lust for meat. Don't say a word, just smack her upside the head a few times with a copy of Teresa's book