Oh no, not more drama...

[BlueLineBabe]

I heard from my friend a couple of hours ago. The one who called the cops on me and told them I was suicidal when I wasn't. She told me that she knew I wasn't happy about my ex taking off and that when I didn't respond to her text message right away, she panicked and called the police. I was finally calm about her and almost over the whole thing. Now, I'm just hocked off all over again. I even have raging indigestion. I told her that I wasn't sure what her motives were at the time because she'd been mad at me since mid-May and that finding the local constabulary at my front door was quite a shock. I also told her that just because I'm ticked off doesn't mean I hate her. It simply means I'm ticked off and I need a bit of a break.

I know I should forgive her and I guess I do, but I'm still not thrilled with her. I don't even know if I want to be friends anymore. Part of me feels like I'm being a petulant brat, the other part wants to flee and hide in a cave so she can't contact me. I had a feeling that I'd hear from her again, just not this soon.

Can someone pass the Maalox? My gut is just churning up a storm!

[BlessedMama]

{{{Anne}}} I don't think you are out of line with the way you feel! At least she admits she panicked vs. making you feel like you were the problem. Still doesn't make what she did right.

Yes, you need to forgive her for *your* sake as much as hers, but you do NOT need to be close buddies again. She has betrayed a trust and needs to be earned again--not in a vindictive "you have to pay for this" way, but in a " I have to know I can trust you again" way.

Inhale BIG! Exhale BIGGER! If it helps, physically open your hands and release the situation to the Lord and let it go. I have done that with some particularly difficult situations, and for me, it helps to visually/actively do something to show I'm releasing it. And ask for His help!

HUGS!

[just7]

That is what I was going to say....deep breaths, inhale, exhale. You can be "friendly" without resuming the old connection. Just take things one day at a time. You are doing some great things for yourself...you are already moving on. HUGS

[pamelaw]

Anne, I think this experience will sound very familiar to you and because the drama is continuing, I'll share it.

I've received for over 8 years, averaging about once every 4 months, e-rants and accusations and malicious remarks from a 'friend' who would do this every time her DH would upset her, or her daughter or her hated son in law Jerry or her only granddaughter, who upset her at times to the point of taking it out on me. She'd usually do a brief 'sorry, but I was.........' email and go back to her rambling communications.

She even took energy profiling and then used the information to hurt others. Her e-fits got worse and worse. When I let her know we were as a family undergoing some serious trials she never had a kind word to say. Then I sent her a forward letting her know of one of Teresa's awesome T-Tapp sales and I got the ugliest, nastiest rant yet about how awful the program is, how it hurt her, how I'd pressured her into doing T-tapp (none of which is true) and then cyber screamed at me in all caps to STOP SENDING ME FORWARDS!!

Definitely not a nice experience. Then I start get forwards from her about useless junk, including obscene pictures of Walmart shoppers and something else, I cannot remember, that was just weird.

I didn't answer her exactly; I let her know I was taking a break due to being under a spiritual attack locally and she would not hear from me for a while.

So then I get this self-righteous email telling me that a real friend would understand her not wanting forwards and her husband, who she regularly ridicules in her emails to me, well HE agrees with her. But she'd forgive me because she's this wonderful saintly Christian.

I blocked her addresses, deleted all of her emails past and present and never looked back.

I finally realized how much of my good will, time, energy and emotions were abused and trampled on and I am done. I did a few rounds of EFT, which I've mentioned in your other thread about this person, and you know what? All got better.

My own energy improved. My vibrations rose, which is the sign of good health. I got pregnant after years of grief and I've had a beautiful baby boy.

Please evaluate my own experience and if you feel your 'relationship' is similar to what I went through, then I hope it inspires you to shake the dust off your feet and move on and not look back and to only bless your life with people who don't willingly toxify you and make excuses instead of being a true friend.

HTH

[gillmings]

Anne, forgiving is not about saying that what someone did to you is okay. It's a gift you give yourself that you're not going to be emotionally connected to that person/incident, by holding negative thoughts and feelings about it/them anymore. Sure, you gotta forgive. That does NOT mean you have to let that person into your life anymore. Your first priority is to yourself. Your self will thank you!