Thank you, Pamela (and all others). We have a very supportive family and church, so most of the things we hear are wonderful encouragements. The most common is that they hope we have twin girls.
Since we have received more than our share of negative comments over the years, I'll tell you, Pamela, I've started taking a detached perspective. When people say unkind or rude things I reply (with a little surprise and no "offense" in my tone), "Wow, that's pretty rude/unkind/nosy/insensitive, etc." You have to take offense to be offended. I'm willing to believe that when we people ask "Don't you know what causes that?" they don't realize how demeaning they are being. They're just repeating other's comments without thinking about how they really sound. HTH!