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  • I love the new video Carol posted here:

    http://thecarolblog.com/caroltuttle/...the-pouty-type

    I have to say that I really do get tired of the 'read my mind and if you don't do it exactly this way, you're a bad person' act. This video helped me have more patience with my perception of that kind of manipulation. It was really good.


    http://Pamela.myenergyprofile.com
    http://Pamela.dressingyourtruth.com





    Pamela, Type 3, strong secondary Type 4


    "that through his death he might bring to nothing the one having the means to cause death, that is, the Devil;" Hebrews 2:14
    "As the last enemy, death is to be brought to nothing." 1 Corinthians 15:26




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    • Originally posted by pamelaw View Post
      I love the new video Carol posted here:

      http://thecarolblog.com/caroltuttle/...the-pouty-type

      I have to say that I really do get tired of the 'read my mind and if you don't do it exactly this way, you're a bad person' act. This video helped me have more patience with my perception of that kind of manipulation. It was really good.


      http://Pamela.myenergyprofile.com
      http://Pamela.dressingyourtruth.com
      Oh, Pamela, here are the T3s... http://thecarolblog.com/





      Kristine
      EP Type 3/2
      Learning and about T-Tapp - needing motivation to exercise period right now!

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      • That was a good one!

        As a Type 3/4, I consciously make every effort to ask my husband about things before I plan it (and I mean, if possible, weeks ahead because he can take so long to answer) and he will answer me, I'll make note of it, and he doesn't remember what he said. It gets really interesting.

        For road trips, we have a list of what to pack, and we pack it ahead of time and things go so much more smoothly. As long as I have my purse, my water and the kid, I'm happy.

        Interestingly, this kind of Type 3 pity party, I discovered a while ago when I just decided to roll with it ala Steve Winwood. This is where EFT has helped me tremendously in eliminating the zzzzttts in my energy system when DH does his dawdle and then RUN!! routine about his ideas and activities. He has a thought, and it's suddenly my emergency in his head. So, when I feel these feelings mentioned in the video creeping up on me, as it does as a Type 3, I deliberately downshift.

        He has a bad habit of relying on me to do everything and I like to include the family. He also tends to throw molotov cocktails into a room, so to speak, and leave and not help with the fall out. He does this a lot in his passive aggressiveness and I've learned when people are angry with him to say "It's between you two; I didn't have anything to do with what he did/said." And I don't let them complain to me about it; he made his messes, he can clean them up. This is after we were married 12 years and I had a total health breakdown from the stresses this kind of thing causes. Honestly, with my nature, if I hadn't almost died, I still be taking responsibility for others, I think. It forced me to lay low and heal and let others clean up their own 'carp'.

        Since learning the Healing Codes and Donna Eden's daily Energy Medicine Routine, interestingly, this is happening less and less, so that is really good news to me, who cherishes peace.

        This energy profiling information has helped so much in validating all of us and seeing our strengths and recognizing where we chafe and working together, hasn't it? It helps with having that insight and cooperation we pray for.


        http://Pamela.myenergyprofile.com
        http://Pamela.dressingyourtruth.com





        Last edited by pamelaw; 09-07-2010, 12:16 PM.
        Pamela, Type 3, strong secondary Type 4


        "that through his death he might bring to nothing the one having the means to cause death, that is, the Devil;" Hebrews 2:14
        "As the last enemy, death is to be brought to nothing." 1 Corinthians 15:26




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        • I'm really loving the "Pity Party" series too! When my parents divorced, my dad's biggest thing was that my mom always expected him to read her mind but.... Upon reflection now, I wonder if my dad just felt like he needed to because he's a T2? Hmm....

          I've been a bit MIA because we started school and I've been spending all my spare time on my online class. It's getting close!





          *..Kayla Howard
          Master T-Tapp Trainer
          From Idaho to "virtually" anywhere!
          Homeschooling Mom
          www.kaylahoward.com
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          • I find that when I get really frustrated with my DH, I only have two choices to get his attention -- get totally in his face and have a complete fit (which I DESPISE and goes totally against my T2 nature, but I will default to in my secondary T3 if pressed), or completely withdraw. The funny thing is, the reason I'm upset is usually because HE's not plugged in to the family. I guess I don't feel I'm being manipulative, but when I "unplug" then he gets uncomfortable and realizes what he's been doing and comes to try to talk it out. It's like I go into "I give up" mode. He's usually not uncomfortable enough to be willing to realize what's been going on and try to do something about it until I'm unplugged from him. Until he sees the situation from the other side, he just doesn't get it. I can try to ask for support, and I do, but I usually just get brushed off and he goes on his way and doesn't really hear me without the fight or the flight.

            Is that manipulative? I just thought it was 22 years of marriage, figuring out what works and what doesn't! LOL I'm always looking for a better way.....





            -Moyne
            Holistic Health Life Coach


            "She is too fond of books, and it has addled her brain." -Louisa May Alcott

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            • No, I don't think that's manipulative at all; I really don't. I think it's forcing him to step up. I SO relate to what you posted. My DH's issues aren't mainly is Type 2/3 personality, it was the severe neglect he suffered and abuse his whole life by his Mom and Dad, and he learned to just be shut down most of the time. I get so tired of him thinking I'm his interpreter and if I don't yell or hold a grudge, I must not mean it.


              http://Pamela.myenergyprofile.com
              http://Pamela.dressingyourtruth.com





              Last edited by pamelaw; 09-07-2010, 01:45 PM.
              Pamela, Type 3, strong secondary Type 4


              "that through his death he might bring to nothing the one having the means to cause death, that is, the Devil;" Hebrews 2:14
              "As the last enemy, death is to be brought to nothing." 1 Corinthians 15:26




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              • Pam, I know this subject is a hot one... for most of us I think to some degree. I'm 'living your truth' with you on focusing on being the best you from inside out, keep on telling the truth you want & promoting wellbeing. His Word lives in you, a living, walking epistle. Those who offer contrasts to how we choose to live, who we choose to spend time with, & where we choose to express our best also remind us of where we've been, & how we have progressed.





                sometimes in, sometimes out, always moving round about.... :: )))))))))))))))))))))) !!

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                • Originally posted by bevibrant View Post
                  I'm really loving the "Pity Party" series too! When my parents divorced, my dad's biggest thing was that my mom always expected him to read her mind but.... Upon reflection now, I wonder if my dad just felt like he needed to because he's a T2? Hmm....

                  I've been a bit MIA because we started school and I've been spending all my spare time on my online class. It's getting close!
                  Thanks for your help with the schooling info, Kayla. I signed him up today after speaking with Lois and she was great!

                  I think this awareness we are getting will help so much in relaxing and allowing ourselves to flow with others peacefully. That was a very interesting insight about your dad and being a T2 thinking he should always know. That's a lot of pressure to put on oneself and I think many Moms suffer from that with their kids, too.

                  http://Pamela.myenergyprofile.com
                  http://Pamela.dressingyourtruth.com





                  Pamela, Type 3, strong secondary Type 4


                  "that through his death he might bring to nothing the one having the means to cause death, that is, the Devil;" Hebrews 2:14
                  "As the last enemy, death is to be brought to nothing." 1 Corinthians 15:26




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                  • Originally posted by pamelaw View Post
                    That was a good one!

                    As a Type 3/4, I consciously make every effort to ask my husband about things before I plan it (and I mean, if possible, weeks ahead because he can take so long to answer) and he will answer me, I'll make note of it, and he doesn't remember what he said. It gets really interesting.

                    For road trips, we have a list of what to pack, and we pack it ahead of time and things go so much more smoothly. As long as I have my purse, my water and the kid, I'm happy.

                    Interestingly, this kind of Type 3 pity party, I discovered a while ago when I just decided to roll with it ala Steve Winwood. This is where EFT has helped me tremendously in eliminating the zzzzttts in my energy system when DH does his dawdle and then RUN!! routine about his ideas and activities. He has a thought, and it's suddenly my emergency in his head. So, when I feel these feelings mentioned in the video creeping up on me, as it does as a Type 3, I deliberately downshift.

                    This energy profiling information has helped so much in validating all of us and seeing our strengths and recognizing where we chafe and working together, hasn't it? It helps with having that insight and cooperation we pray for.


                    http://Pamela.myenergyprofile.com
                    http://Pamela.dressingyourtruth.com
                    Pamela, the words in red italic sound exactly like something I would say or do. Exactly! It took 6 years into my marriage before I realized what was happening and I told my husband he had to own his own relationships. I still have to remind him that his emergency is not my emergency and, almost just as bad, I have to tell him that he cannot lay down a rule or punishment that I am the one who has to enforce.

                    I think back of all the efforts I have made over the years and all the prayers I have prayed and I cannot believe how much this energy profiling opens the door for understanding and even appreciation of other people.

                    Thank goodness you are still with us, Pamela!





                    Kristine
                    EP Type 3/2
                    Learning and about T-Tapp - needing motivation to exercise period right now!

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                    • Originally posted by gillmings View Post
                      I find that when I get really frustrated with my DH, I only have two choices to get his attention -- get totally in his face and have a complete fit (which I DESPISE and goes totally against my T2 nature, but I will default to in my secondary T3 if pressed), or completely withdraw. The funny thing is, the reason I'm upset is usually because HE's not plugged in to the family. I guess I don't feel I'm being manipulative, but when I "unplug" then he gets uncomfortable and realizes what he's been doing and comes to try to talk it out. It's like I go into "I give up" mode. He's usually not uncomfortable enough to be willing to realize what's been going on and try to do something about it until I'm unplugged from him. Until he sees the situation from the other side, he just doesn't get it. I can try to ask for support, and I do, but I usually just get brushed off and he goes on his way and doesn't really hear me without the fight or the flight.

                      Is that manipulative? I just thought it was 22 years of marriage, figuring out what works and what doesn't! LOL I'm always looking for a better way.....
                      Moyne, what type is your husband?





                      Kristine
                      EP Type 3/2
                      Learning and about T-Tapp - needing motivation to exercise period right now!

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                      • Kristine, THANK YOU! I appreciate the input and sharing so much and you are so right about how much this is helping us to find answers to many years of praying and worrying.

                        hugs!

                        http://Pamela.myenergyprofile.com
                        http://Pamela.dressingyourtruth.com





                        Pamela, Type 3, strong secondary Type 4


                        "that through his death he might bring to nothing the one having the means to cause death, that is, the Devil;" Hebrews 2:14
                        "As the last enemy, death is to be brought to nothing." 1 Corinthians 15:26




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                        • Is my secondary 4 showing when I emailed the Dean of the home school charter school that there was a misspelled word on the application form? (Do you make lass than $______)

                          And teaching my son how to make amusing sounds with a drinking straw in his arm pit, is that music class or just my incredibly silly side? I have a HUGE silly side, which is why when reading the book at first I thought if I was not a 2 I'd have to be a 1! In all honesty, I'm hilarious.

                          http://Pamela.myenergyprofile.com
                          http://Pamela.dressingyourtruth.coom





                          Pamela, Type 3, strong secondary Type 4


                          "that through his death he might bring to nothing the one having the means to cause death, that is, the Devil;" Hebrews 2:14
                          "As the last enemy, death is to be brought to nothing." 1 Corinthians 15:26




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                          • And teaching my son how to make amusing sounds with a drinking straw in his arm pit, is that music class or just my incredibly silly side? I have a HUGE silly side, which is why when reading the book at first I thought if I was not a 2 I'd have to be a 1! In all honesty, I'm hilarious.
                            LOL! You know, I personally don't think types 1's are necessarily funny, they just like fun. I've come to the conclusion that being funny is just a gift for some!





                            *..Kayla Howard
                            Master T-Tapp Trainer
                            From Idaho to "virtually" anywhere!
                            Homeschooling Mom
                            www.kaylahoward.com
                            My Success Story
                            Grab Your FREE Guide to Consistency
                            God-Made eCookbook FREE
                            Work with me for 30 days!

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                            • Originally posted by Kristine Bolstridge View Post
                              I finally purchased some metallic paint and updated my jewelry. I have a 'new' dirty gold necklace, a new ring, and four pairs of earrings.

                              I also colored my hair and got rid of the grey roots.

                              I spent the weekend discussing personality types - that was interesting.
                              you should post pics on the FB page!





                              Lucy

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                              • Originally posted by Kristine Bolstridge View Post
                                Moyne, what type is your husband?
                                I was wondering that too!....4?





                                Lucy

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