Period problems? Pregnant?

[MoTappin]

My period is 5 days late. DH and I are TTC #3. I did have an early miscarriage in July which resulted in faintly positive home tests but a negative blood test a few days later, followed by the bleeding. I've always been like clockwork, but the home tests are negative, so I went in for a blood test yesterday, which was also negative. I'm not under any unusual stress, and I've never been late that I haven't been pregnant. I guess it's possible that I'm destined for another m/c, but it will take a few more days.

I still feel pregnant, but I don't want to hold false hope. I guess I'll just have to wait it out. Any experience or thoughts? My family tends to hit menopause early (my mom was totally done at 44, and my grandma earlier than that), but I'm only 31.

Just talked to my mom and she's telling me perimenopause! I guess my great great grandma was done at 34, my great grandma at 44, my grandma at 40. Oh dear. Yay for not having periods, but oh dear on trying to time things when TTC.

Meredith--Down from a 14 to a 6!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Sweat may be gross, Sweat may be stinky... But I'd better keep Tappin' or I'll look like a Twinkie!!

Just tuck it, okay?

[gingerb]

perimenopause is definitely a possibility. Not under any unusual stress? What? You may not think so, but TTC, especially after a M/C (BTDT, twice) *is* indeed stressful.

If a home test is negative and a serum test is negative, then you're not pregnant, no matter how pregnant you feel. So get that 'destined for a MC' out of your head, because you don't know that, sugar.

I'm sorry about your MC, Meredith, and I'll continue to keep my fingers crossed as you embark on the TTC journey.

~ginger

The PAUSE button is your friend.
You know you want to...P-L-A-Y. Come on, push it. You can do it.

[MoTappin]

Thanks Ging,

Actually AF just showed up about an hour ago. I'd actually rather be just plain old not pregnant than have my 3rd miscarriage (had one with my very first pregnancy, then had 2 perfectly uncomplicated pregnancies).

After talking to my mom I'm pretty convinced it's gotta be perimenopause. So it might be harder to pin down ovulation in TTC, but I don't think DH will mind BD-ing nightly...just to make darn sure. ;)

Meredith--Down from a 14 to a 6!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Sweat may be gross, Sweat may be stinky... But I'd better keep Tappin' or I'll look like a Twinkie!!

Just tuck it, okay?

[Tina71]

(((Meredith))) I know how hard it is when you are TTC after losing a baby. I do think it is stressful too. Take care![:X]

Tina

Life is not measured by how many breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away

[sk8rgrrl]

Sending prayers your way!!!

BIG HUGS!

--Jen

You're just jealous because the voices aren't talking to *you*!

[aj]

Yes, I don't know about the perimenopause thing, but it seems to me that your body does have hormone issues to figure out. Having your MC (I've been praying for you) could have put you in a hormonal swing. Fortunately you have TTapp to help regulate yourself.

You need to accept you are not in control. When the time is right and all the moons are in the right order :) you will have another little one. Give the two you have a big hug everyday and put all your efforts into them (and to your husband as you mentioned;)).

April
Taking it one day at a time.

[sdial]

Hey, Meredith!

Hugs and prayers your way. I had two MC's between number #1 child (who had profoud issues) and #2 child. Thought maybe I would never have a healthy baby. Here I am with 4 more and all healthy!

My OB specialist told me that women have an avg. of 4 miscarriages in their reproductive life, but most don't even know it. Do you remember hearing about the time when women went to their dr.s after missing 3 periods to find out if they were pregnant? So many miscarriages happen just a few days later than a women's period is meant to arrive. Back in the good old days, pre-EPT's, that early miscarriage happened and the women never knew the difference. Now, with EPT's, which are great for getting us on the right nutritional path as early as possible, set us up for knowing EVERYTHING and therefore grieving losses we would not otherwise be aware of.

My OB also told me, when I asked him about whether these miscarriages have something to do with me, he said that they are very hard to cause oneself. It is almost always a cellular growth issue...the baby not being developed correctly and stopping its' developement naturally...in essence, that child, if it were to make it to the end of pregnancy, would have special needs.

After Jason (#1) was born and we had so many special needs to manage, my husband and I prayed that God would only allow us to have healthy children or not to have any more.

So, I realize this is fairly unique perspective, but after talking to my Dr. following my first MC (which was heart wrenching and agonizing) and hearing all that he had to say, I looked at my next MC as an answered prayer. If that baby was not developing normally than it really truly was. I was still sad, but thankful that I would not have two special needs children to take care of. My darlin' Jason was hard enough!

When I did get pregnant with #2 and she stuck around, I was totally peaceful about her being healthy!

Anyway, wanted to share my perspective with you incase it might help. My guess, if you are perimenopausal, is it will be mighty fun and much less stressful TTC! (Less stressful as you can not control anything and just have to go with the flow! ;) ) I would also suggest you check in with your OB to see if he/she has any helpful suggestions or advice.

Here's to a healthy pregancy!!! :D Have fun! [:p]

Blessings,

Sherry


Rejoice in the Lord always. Again, I say rejoice. (Phil. 4:4)

[aj]

Sherry, what a wonderfully supporting post. Thank you so much for being so open and sharing your experiences with us.

April
Taking it one day at a time.

[MoTappin]

Thank you everyone for your support and advice. I've said it before and I'll say it again: T-Tappers are the bestest people in the universe!

Love you guys![:I]

Meredith--Down from a 14 to a 6!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Sweat may be gross, Sweat may be stinky... But I'd better keep Tappin' or I'll look like a Twinkie!!

Just tuck it, okay?

[JenEarp]

Meredith, since early menopause runs in your family, you may want to mention it to your dr next time you go. They can do a blood test to see how your hormone levels are and give you a good idea of what is going on there.

HUGS!!

JenE~~Tapping since 4/9/05
Life is what's coming. Not what was!