To those who responded about potty trng.

[DeboraJ]

Hi!

We are needing desperate help for training my 2 yr. old grandson. He seems to have an aversion to wanting to sit on his potty. Today, my daughter will start sitting him on the potty as soon as he gets up. When we do get him to pee in his potty, we give him praise & hugs. About 4 months ago, he was moved to a new room (across the hall) in his daycare. His teacher told us not to push him since he was going to be in a new learning environment. She said that after a month, it'll only take another month. Wrong!

I heard of a book that was titled something like Potty Training in One Day. Anyway have any experiences that they can share, I would be greatly appreciated. TIA...

[honeygirl]

It could be that he's just not ready yet. You can try Dr. Phi's potty training in a day...it's on his website.

Joan

[Robin P]

At the daycare my son goes to (he's now 5) they took turns sitting on the potty... we got tons of potty training advice including putting the potty in front of the tv and letting him sit there... we didn't try that one though. we asked him constantly and sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn't. They told us also not to push and that when he was ready he'd do it... he was 3 when he was trained and we were told that was early. They can be stubborn little guys when they want to!! I have a friend who also tried little prizes when her little ones went on the potty... stickers, little hand held guys and stuff from the dollar store. I also tried to watch when my son would have dirty diapers and try to get him to sit on the potty just before those times. I found that my son even now doesn't always have to go right when he gets up... his bladder holds about 12-14 hours!!

good luck. sending well wishes for you and your daughter as I know how frustrating it can be!!

Robin

[Debbiefish]

For little boys it can be as late as four years old. You can't push them to do it or it will backfire on you.

I think the biggest thing that helped my son was daycare. I am a full-time working mother so he's been in daycare all his life. When he started in the two year old class (he was 2 1/2) the whole class took potty breaks. Everyone had to file in and try, whether or not they had to go, at certain times of the day. This "group" potty time was the best thing ever! There were very few accidents. Oh...and most kids wore underwear, not Pull-Ups. By the time they all moved up to the three year old class they were all pottying, every one of them and the accidents mostly came with #2, but very rarely.

Then in the evenings we would make a big deal of pottying and on weekends we would just do the same schedule as the school schedule.

A couple of things for boys...my son loved shaving cream. Buy some cheap shaving cream and when you think he's really gotta pee (it helps if they actually pee) you spray a dollop of shaving cream in the potty and he has a "target" to pee on. In fact I think they (I don't know who) even make disposable targets to put in the potty. [:0]

Hope this helps...but like I said...you can't push too hard. There are several good books out on pottying. We read a couple of those for a while and he really wanted to wear "big" boy underwear after reading it in the books and seeing all the other kids at school with them on.

Debbie

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[kmlco]

My son was [u]very</u> stubborn and refused to go on the potty @ age 3 even though I knew he had bladder control and everything was working 'fine'. I figured out it was just a power struggle. At the time we were staying at a place with tile floors and so I just took all his pants and diapers and underpants away and told him when he was ready to use the potty consistently he could have his pants back. He really hated that he couldn't go play outside w/ his sister(modesty). He never wanted to wet the floor (more embarrassment than a diaper evidently). It only took a day or 2 (+ quite a few temper tantrums obviously to no avail). Probably not Dr Phil's method, but it worked for us. :)

Kirsten
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[Babybutter]

DeboraJ,

I agree with what everyone has already stated that the child has to be ready. There are clear signs and to rush the potty training does no one any good and lengthen the time it acutally takes to complete.

With that said, I did have the book 'Potty Training in Less Than a Day'. It is no longer in print and I gave mine away years ago. But it worked wonderfully for me.

In a nutshell, once you are sure your child is ready, willing and able to be trained, you get a doll that can be fed a bottle with water and can 'wet' herself. The child also must have training pants that he can pull up and down himself. And the motivator! A big tray of candy, snacks, etc that the doll and the child get when they 'make it' to the potty. (we all know bribery works - but it is only for a short time, so no harm).

Basically, what happens is the child gives the doll the bottle and has to get the doll onto the potty before she wets her pants. If the doll gets there in time, the doll gets a treat (which the child gets to eat since the doll can't!!). And so it goes during the day. And of course, the child catches on very quickly that if he makes it onto the potty before he wets himself, he gets a treat! Ah Ha!!

This really did work for me. It was a great experience with no tears or bad memories for either of us.

Oh, my son is 23 now, so this was long before the pull ups. I prob would not use those because they act as diapers and the child may not be able to tell when he has wet himself. We had the regular training pants that I made sure he could pull up and down (I had to cut a little slit in the top and bottom to be sure they didn't stay too tight).

And if the child has an accident (from this day on!!) he changes himself. That they do NOT like and don't want to do that, so they have several reasons to do it right.

If your grandson is ready, --- or I should say, WHEN your grandson is ready (my son was 2 years old, but I think that is early for boys), give this a shot.

Hope this helps!

Eat to live, not live to eat. - Benjamin Franklin

[Satara]

My oldest son (now almost five) was really difficult to potty train or so we thought. He just wasn't ready when we started trying. There can also be extenuating circumstances. ie I was trying to potty train him before his brother was born. The best advice I can give you is to leave it alone for a while and let him decide when he's ready. We kept trying and trying with our son and finally backed off completely, left it alone and a few months later he got interested in it himself (after watching his Dad pee standing up)and picked it up quickly. A lot of boys aren't fully potty trained until they are over three.

Have a fabulous day!
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[JeniBug]

There are some children who will be "trained" by using methods like Potty Training In One Day, and there are others who wont. My older daughter was one of those in the won't category, but I bet if I decided to try, my younger daughter would train lickety split. I just dont have a reason to care. (Youd think with a new baby coming it would be a priority, but this is exactly how it was last time, untrained toddler with a baby on the way).

My older daughter learned in 2 days, when she decided she was ready to pee. She was 3 yrs 2 months old.

Already, my 2 yr old uses it infrequently, so I think she will train sooner.

If no one is giving you a hard time at the preschool about him being trained, like a rule by a certain time, then let him be, and encourage him to practice. That's my advice.

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[DeboraJ]

Thanks everyone for all the good advice. I've been reading these comments to my daughter & some of them have given us a good laugh since we've experienced some. She'll still keep putting him on the potty in the mornings, he does really good & doesn't seem to be mad about that. Loves the praise & then he gets to call his granny at work to be praised. We won't push him so hard & I appreciate you all telling me. I just thought he was being cantankerous. My 69 yr. old aunt picked him up & told him it was time to give up the diapers, to which he just looked at her like she was crazy. [:p]

I LOVE the wetting doll trick! Now, to find one. Hmmm....anyone know?

[summer61]

Genetics has a lot to do with toilet training, too. My mom told me that none of her 6 kids were trained before 3 years old, and most weren't trained until about 3 1/2, so I didn't start until the kids were 3. Mine (who also had autism and ADHD symptoms to deal with) were trained at 3 1/2 years to 4 years old. Don't sweat it.

[QE3]

2 is young for a boy. All mine (3 of 'em) were over 3 before they were trained in a less than a week. Offer a big-time potty prize, that worked for #1. They have to decide themselves to do it. There's also a great video out, called Pottytime I think. You can find it in the diaper section of Target, or used to, I don't shop that aisle anymore :D

Kate

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[ladyjenevive]

i think 2 is pretty young, too... i read the potty in a day book, and tried it with my dd, but it just made me frustrated. i also didn't like how you make them run back and forth when they have an accident - very shaming, in my opinion.

with dd, after the one day thing, dh said "she just isn't ready. let's wait a month and see if she is then" we did, and she wasn't. i finally decided to not make a big deal out of it. one day out of the blue, she decided she was done with diapers. i think she was past 3, but after that, we didn't have any 'accidents'.

ds is 2 1/2, and will sit on the potty and go sometimes, especially if he's nakey.;) i don't like giving treats and rewards, but that's just me. i had a friend who gave her son m&m's, and what happened was when he wanted an m&m, he would sit on the potty and squeeeeeze out a couple of drops and then ask for some! it didn't help him remember to get on the potty when he really had to go, though. he just did it when he was ready.

i feel like if you're running into resistance, it may be that he really is not ready...just my 2 cent, tho![8D]

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[DeboraJ]

Ladies,

Thanks so much for the great comments, I really appreciate them. I askd him last night if he needed to sit on the potty & he said "no". My daughter changed him & when I picked him up a minute later, he was wet. She got upset that I had asked him & he said "no". Well, I told her that he may not have needed to go when I had asked him & needed to go a minute later. Geez, I told her to take a chill break! [:X]

[MeatyBones]

I definatly agree with everyone when they say that they will do it when they are ready. My 5 year old son was 1 1/2 when he took his diaper off, used the potty and never looked back. Also he never had an accident ever.

But my 4 year old son was a different story or should i say a nightmare. I pushed him everyday and finally one day at about 2 1/2 he removed his diaper with no problems for about a month, untill the accidents came constantly. I definatly did it the wrong way and I now realize that I pushed him into it prematurly.I have rug cleaning and laundry bills to prove it lol.

Gina

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[DeboraJ]

Thanks for that comment, Gina. I told my daughter just the other day to give him time. He'll get it.

Yesterday, he announced very loudly, "I boo-booed!" I told him, "Great, tell your mom to get you into a CLEAN pull-up." Gave him a hug for letting us know he had done his business instead of us waiting to get a whiff. ;)

[DeboraJ]

To everyone that responded to this message, an update.

His potty now stays in the bathroom & he also has the seat that sits on the toilet so he can use whichever he wants. The little seat hangs on the wall next to the toilet. I hung it up last wk. & told him that whenever he feels like going, he can take it right off the wall himself & I watched him put it on the toilet. I told him he did very good.

Over the weekend, he told his mom he had to potty. So they ran to the bathroom & he peed in the toilet! :D Over the rest of the weekend, he did this about 2 more times. To say the least, we are estatic. Then he told his mom that he had to potty. He went into the bathroom, got his seat off the wall & put it on the toilet. He then went & got one of his chairs & climbed up on the toilet ALL BY HIMSELF!!!!!

I am SO excited! Or can't you tell?? YAY, & thanks again for all the advice. Like you veterans said, We just needed to wait for him. ;)